File puptcrit/puptcrit.0811, message 171

Date: Wed, 12 Nov 2008 12:55:15 -0500
Subject: Re: [Puptcrit] Datastan meets Storyland

On Nov 11, 2008, at 9:52 PM, Anne Schaefer wrote:

> In trying to protect our children (or ourselves) from seeing the scary 
> things, the evil things, the oppression and monsters, we're also not
> allowing them to see how we imagine those terrible things to be 
> vanquished.

   I am a big proponent of Heathy Fear - one that builds knowledge and 
respect for the safe boundaries and dangers of life. But exposing one 
to a healthy fear is a far cry from exposing them to terror and phobia. 
The constant shock 'em till they squirm and/or scream is not useful. It 
is, IMO, counterproductive as it desensitizes us to the dangers (though 
as we get older a limited degree of it is fun and/or needed every now 
and then.) There are ways and extremes, and limits and boundaries, to 
observe. The goal of healthy fear is much like a vaccination - a little 
controlled exposure goes a long way.
   But the 24/7 "news" and shows with horrific subject matter rarely 
even hint at vanquishing any of the terrors. On the contrary, they say 
to tune in next time for more of the same sensationalize fare. I try to 
isolate myself and my kids from much of this. Yes, I censor these 
things, and my kids censor themselves as well. We prefer the stories, 
both modern and classic, where battles against the evils are won and 
lost, ones where there are conflicts not just in the events, but within 
the characters as well.


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