Date: Wed, 10 Feb 1999 00:48:00 +0100
From: Erik <erikb-AT-agoranet.be>
Subject: Re: Skool's Out


At 16:08 -0800 09-02-1999, Senex R. Rupicapra wrote:
>DK Sanders-Weatherford wrote:
>> anyway, her family is struggling to get by right now,
>> but she has made the choice to stay home with her baby
>> even if it means barely enough money to eat.  i know it's
>> a difficult choice, but she feels that her baby will
>> benefit more in the long run from the personal attention
>> than from money.
>
>
>	aye, i've heard this tale before.  y're right.  love
>be better'n money.  usually, the adjustments aint all that
>traumatic when it's really important.  this is.  Annie, my
>middle girl decided to stay home after li'l Julia was borned.
>not only did Julia benefit mightily, but Jay, the oldest,
>and Mary Grace did too. (not to mention the parents)  i
>aksed her t'other day if she regretted stopping her career
>and she says, "this *is* my career."  nuff said.
>

when our first kid was born i decided to keep him with me in the mornings
and put him in daycare in teh afternoon (the best of both worlds approach).
Both my wife and i have fultime jobs, but i work at home. So during two
years i lovingly had the baby in the mornings with me and had to work
nights and often weekends (but always in the house) to earn a living.

Now with second one i am not able anymore to do that (i still need to work
fulltime and i study fulltime) so i feel a bit guilty. On the other hand
our second boy still is a very happy kid. As long as they feel your love
(and it's true love) it doesn't matter that much how you organise your life.

Erik