From: OOTSONATI-AT-aol.com
Date: Fri, 16 Jul 1999 19:29:41 EDT
Subject: Re: Well thanx a million


In a message dated 7/16/99 5:28:36 PM Eastern Daylight Time, 
bippie-AT-hotmail.com writes:

<< Children are much more resilient that people give them credit for.  If the 
 only "trauma" a child has to endure is a parent changing their sex, s/he is 
 very lucky.  We have all had unpleasant things to deal with as children.  
 Learning to cope with adversity is an important part of growing up.  Of the 
 kids that I grew up with, the ones who lived sheltered lives were the ones 
 who had the most problems later in life.  It is, of course, important to 
 protect children from real harm, but a sex change is pretty trivial.  At 
 least these people are still in their children's lives.  Many people just 
 abandon their children.  That would be much worse.
  >>

Really it depends on how a child is taught from early on. If you send your 
kids to baptist bible school then have a sex change, it would only be logical 
to expect the child to think negative about it. I went to one of those 
christian reform schools myself and I have had trouble in the past accepting 
gays, based on the homophobia I learned from my environment. Its all water 
under the bridge now, but I wish I had never heard the words, "God 
hates....". 

>And speaking of "parents happiness vs childrens happiness,"  should divorce 
be abolished?  Should parents be forced to stay together even if they are 
unhappy?  Doesn't a parents unhappiness deeply effect their children?  Where 
>should this line be drawn?

No, but alot of problems could be avoided if people were smarter about sex 
and marriage. One of my best friends knew his wife about a week before they 
got married. They just knew they were in love because the sex was great, and 
now 4 years later they have been divorced for 2 years and have a kid that has 
to grow up hearing mommy is a whore and daddy is an asshole, because his 
parents didnt think ahead. 

Since the kid was unplanned, neither parent feels too responsible for him. If 
it wasnt for my friend's mom and stepdad (I guess the parents happiness is 
far more important than the grandparents too.) the kid probably wouldnt get 
looked after at all.   Maybe the kid will remember that his happiness is more 
important than that of an unwanted child when he drops out of highschool to 
get married to the first girl that will marry him.