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Subject: Fw: the perfect person
Date: Thu, 21 May 1998 19:50:58 -0400


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   > From: Sarah Khan <sfatima-AT-clam.rutgers.edu>
> To: baudrillard-AT-lists.village.virginia.edu
> Subject: the perfect person
> Date: Thursday, May 21, 1998 8:11 AM
> 
> 
> Sorry guys to bug you again- I'm in on this thing to figure out what
> the "perfect" person. I wanted to ask what characteristics would you give
> the "perfect" person- and do you think the perfect 'guy' would know or be
> skilled at different things than the perfect 'girl?'  
>

Ah, work is over for the day and so, the perfect opportunity to respond. 
Sarah, I like your posts.  Their honesty is refreshing and fun to respond
to.  (Have you noticed that this group has gotten more active, and stayed
that way, since your first post?)

Being asked to design the perfect person is like being given a slab of good
marble: you can make a lot of beautiful figures if you know how.  I'm sure
the first thing that occurred to many, on reading your post, was that a
conception of the "perfect" person is, and should be, entirely subjective
and relative; perfect for whom, and for what?  

But let us assume that you are talking "perfect for romance," or, "perfect
as erotic Other."  Then what would be "perfect"?  Perhaps you are the one
to answer that.

I think the perfect man would be "perfect" only for himself.  But is there
another for whom he might be perfect?  If so, she would then be the perfect
woman.  Yang and Yin, salt and pepper, Calvin and Hobbes (just kidding). 
So it is only in light of my idea of the perfect woman that I can describe
for you the perfect man.  Who is he and what kind of woman does he hang
with?

The perfect man, described already by Nietzsche (you should read him): 
incessantly seeking, curious, skeptical, probing; he who walks alone along
the large earth, but filled with the pleasure of existence, imbued with a
certain glow, an ebullience, an enthusiasm; who is independent, not
clinging and desperate; one whose solitude could use some protection; and,
who often gives out, or seems to, more energy than he takes in: a lover . .
. of all things that have real LIFE to them; able to love so much the
better because he doesn't require love; altogether lacking in
sentimentality, but not in sentiment; who has a certain edge to his living,
able to create that measure of Risk so important to heightening the senses;
who will take you on his journey; who rests in your complementary nature:
who makes you feel, you perfect woman, like the perfect woman you are.  The
perfect man is one who is able to Live and Love.  

And who would the perfect woman be, then, but she who would respond, and in
kind, to all of this?

Doug    

     
 

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