From: ssliwinski-AT-accel.net (Sharon Sliwinski)
Subject: Re: Woolf et al.
Date: Fri, 14 Jun 1996 17:56:36 -0500


  But I would be grateful if anyone on this list could direct me
>to other novels (or plays or other narratives) in which a successful
>marriage is one of the important characters.
>I suppose that successful marriage is not a big concern with most French
>Feminist writers; the connection seems to me to come only through a belief I
>would also attribute to FF writers, that writing is important, and can
>change the world (slightly, at least).
>
>Don Walter
>dwalter-AT-ucla.edu
>
>


Don, your message made me so happy! Happy to know someone stills struggles -
whether to "change the world" or just to enjoy a successful marriage. Check
out _Vita_ by Victoria Glendinning. It's a bio. on Vita Sackville-West (one
of Woolf contemporaries/lovers no less!). It docuements one of the most
successful (if not least trying) marriages of all time. 

Of course there's Cixous ("The Laugh of the Medusa"): 

"At the end of a more or less conscious computation, she finds not her sum
but her differences. I am for you what you want me to be at the moment you
look at me in a way you've never seen me before: at every instant. When I
write, it's everything that we don't know we can be that is written out of
me, without exclusions, without stipulations, and everything we will be
calls us to the unflagging, intoxicating, unappeasable seach for love. In
one another we will never be lacking."

I think you're wrong about the FF concern for a successful marriage... I
love this quotation - such possibilities for love stories! 

Happy,
Sharon.