From: "Lydia Perovich" <fauxprophete-AT-hotmail.com> Subject: Re: on the virtuality of human relationships Date: Fri, 23 Jan 2004 10:27:59 -0400 Maybe it is the case that "there are more opportunities to be tender to another being" than ever before, and maybe it is the case that human contacts have become more diverse than before. Yet this does not imply that the conditions of possibility of friendship have followed suit. The same way some aspects of technology have made travelling easier (by accelerating time through ever faster machines) and some other aspects have made it actually more difficult (surveillance techniques, biopolitics, bureaucratic management), opportunities for friendly contact have increased and actual materiality of friendship seems not to have. There are some postulates of frienship that need to take place, for sure. As Eric reminded, "equal worth" between persons involved being one -- and we don't need to keep the Ancient idea of equality in order to acknowledge the importance of this postulate. Many a current ideal of equality may be employed, including the marxist one. Also, you can't "be friends" with your pet. You can be loving, tender, protective or what have you, but a friend? I actually think that the degree of emotional attachment of a great number of people in uber-developed countries to their pets is a bit worrisome. Many people I live among genuinely love their pets more than other people. Has there anything been written about sociology and politics of pet-ownership? I see people whose pets function as their fetishes, or as projection screens or all sorts of narcissistic objects ("My cat is the only creature who gives me unconditional love!" Huh?). Both a certain degree of wealth and a certain degree of existential solitude are probably preconditions for the emergence of a society in which humans desperately seek love and frienship in/from their pets. But I digress. Where you're right on, Steve, is that friendship has been irreversibly seiged by the difference. I think Kristeva should have the last word here. Only when we acknowledge that we are strangers to ourselves can we befriend a stranger (or be a real citizen). To fear or be intrigued by another person's strangeness depends of how familiar we are with our own ghosts. L _________________________________________________________________ Help STOP SPAM with the new MSN 8 and get 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=dept/bcomm&pgmarket=en-ca&RU=http%3a%2f%2fjoin.msn.com%2f%3fpage%3dmisc%2fspecialoffers%26pgmarket%3den-ca
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